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Make No Assumptions

  Hello!! I hope you’re off to a great start to the week. I must admit it’s been a little cray cray up in the Heard household recently. On Monday night, my daughter, Ellie, got really sick and threw up multiple times every hour and then eventually… Read more »


Happy Birthday, Roo!

  Hello! I hope you had a wonderful Thanksgiving! I know how the holidays can be a mixed bag of emotions, especially when you’ve lost a family member or loved one, or have difficult childhood memories of the holidays. Since my late husband, Andrew… Read more »


Courage

  Hi There! Happy (almost) Thanksgiving! Today I wanted to share a story that deeply touched my heart about my six-year-old daughter, Ellie. I hope it touches yours, too. Last week, I was picking Ellie up from school when her teacher hesitantly ap… Read more »


Small Acts of Kindness

  Hi There! Last week I was in Walmart, power walking through the toy isle, searching for a birthday present for one of Ellie’s friends who had an upcoming birthday party. I’d done my research by asking this little nugget what she wanted, so I was… Read more »


Comparison Steals Creativity

  I’m not going to lie, this is my fourth attempt in two days to write this post. I’ve spent way too much time typing, editing, deleting, repeat. At this point I just need to go for it. I have a lot to say, but I’m struggling to communicate those… Read more »


What’s your System?

  I have this reoccurring daydream where I’m walking through my home and notice my office, my computer, and each bedroom are completely clutter-free and organized. Everything has a place. Simple, clear, and uncomplicated. I know exactly where thin… Read more »


Creating Memories

Hi There! First off, thank you for all of the love and encouragement over this past weekend. Ellie and I had the most memorable time together at my ten year college reunion and Baylor Homecoming. This trip also happened to fall on what would have been… Read more »


Walk Down Memory Lane

Hi There! I hope you’re having a great week so far! In a few days, my daughter, Ellie, and I will be headed to Waco, TX for my <gulp!> ten year college reunion, Baylor Homecoming parade, and BU football game. A dear friend from college blessed us… Read more »


Finish

Hi There! Does perfectionism paralyze you from finishing projects and reaching your goals? That’s a resounding yes for me. Recently, my mom insisted I read a book called Finish: Give Yourself The Gift Of Done by Jon Acuff. I’d read his book, Start, a c… Read more »


Sweat Out the Crazies

Hello! A few weeks ago, my daughter, Ellie, and I were staying at my parents’ house and, since I knew I had childcare to help with Ellie in the morning (AKA my wonderful dad), I convinced my mom to do a 5:30 AM spin class with me. I rolled out of bed t… Read more »


The Four Tendencies

Recently I finished the latest book by one of my favorite authors, Gretchen Rubin, called The Four Tendencies. I love Gretchen’s books because she writes about human behavior and how creating habits can make our lives more fulfilling. I’ve always been… Read more »


Doing The Work

Hi There! Starting a business takes a lot of courage. I know this because I remember how insecure, unqualified, and afraid I felt four years ago when I made the decision to start speaking. I ran into a friend a short time ago who just started her own b… Read more »


Don’t Look Back

What am I doing? Is sharing my story even going to make a difference? Does this even matter? These were the thoughts swirling around in my head while I rapidly applied my lip gloss in the bathroom moments before I stepped up to the podium to speak yest… Read more »


WELL

I walked out of the doctor’s office with a huge smile on my face, waving goodbye to the staff who now all knew me by first name. Understandable, since I’d been in and out of their office for the past seven months. And not just my general practitioner’s… Read more »


What If I’m Wrong?

Ever said this to yourself, “I’m afraid to make this commitment because I’m worried I’ll feel trapped, I won’t like it, I’ll be unhappy, and I’ll be wasting my time”? I’ll be the first to admit I’ve spent a lot of time camping out in this belief system… Read more »


And and Both

Today is just like every other normal day. I’ll go to a meeting, pick my daughter up from camp, eat lunch, the usual. But four years ago today was anything but a normal day, because on that day I woke up to witness the end of a young man’s life. I sat… Read more »


Greatest Transformation

Hello! It’s scary putting yourself out there and trying something new, be it a new relationship, interviewing for a new job, you name it. Recently I started meeting with different companies for informational interviews, putting myself out there and let… Read more »


Adulting Part 3 – Making Positive Changes

Hello! I hope you had a wonderful 4th of July! Ellie and I just got back from celebrating the 4th with Andrew’s family at their lake house and then the week before we spent some quality time with my parents in San Diego. I know it’s been awhile since w… Read more »


Adulting Part 2 – Back to Basics

Hi There! Last week, I shared some of my personal challenges transitioning to adulthood. Pretty sure I could write an entire book on this topic, so I wanted to continue the conversation. The feedback I received on last week’s post was really positive a… Read more »


Adulting

Ok, so I’m just gonna say it: Being an adult is hard work. At first I was embarrassed to admit this, because I honestly thought I was the only person struggling with the transition to adulthood. However, after a few recent conversations with friends al… Read more »


Cutting Through the Clutter to Live Your Dreams (Guest Blogger!)

Hi There! Organization is not my forte. Anyone else? Even though I may not have been born with the organization gene, I know it’s a skill I can continue to learn. In fact, I’m constantly in the process of simplifying my life from clutter so I can hone… Read more »


No One Succeeds Alone

Hi There! Recently I had a deep and meaningful conversation with a friend of mine. I opened up about how difficult this past year has been as a single mom building a business I’m passionate about while trying to rebuild my life after loss. Her response… Read more »


Health Update

Hi There! I’m writing to you with an extremely grateful heart because on Tuesday afternoon I found out my biopsy was benign (not cancer) and my CT scans were clear. I do, however, have acid reflux, which is a manageable condition. I can’t begin to tell… Read more »


But Are We Really Living?

One of the greatest tragedies in life is to be alive, but not really living. As I’ve experienced over the past couple of weeks, sometimes our fears and anxieties about the things we can’t control in life keep us locked up in a self-made prison of merel… Read more »


Finding Courage in Unlikely Places

Whew! It feels good to be done with my TEDx talk. Sometimes taking a risk and doing something we’re afraid to do builds a whole new level of confidence and strengthens our faith in God’s plans for our lives. I’ve never worked harder on a project. I gav… Read more »


Choosing the Right Mindset

Hi! Thank you so much for your encouragement and prayers about my health. Both the stress test and echocardiogram came back normal, which is great, and the chest pains have subsided quite a bit. More and more I’m thinking the pain could’ve been related… Read more »


Wake-Up Call

Hi There! About a month and a half ago I woke up with serious chest pains that worsened when I breathed in the cold air. I was scheduled to speak the next day, so I was a little worried the pain wouldn’t go away before the event. To be on the safe side… Read more »


The Journey

Hi There! I hope you’re having a great week! Ellie is on spring break and headed to San Diego to spend the rest of the week with my parents, while I’m headed to Florida tomorrow to speak to over 500 Keller Williams agents at an inspirational breakfast… Read more »


The Shack

This past weekend I went to see the movie, The Shack. It’s one of my all-time favorite books. I remember exactly where I was when I first read it. I was on a cruise with my late husband, Andrew, and his family, and I couldn’t put it down. If you haven’… Read more »


Laughter is the Best Medicine

Hi There! Who doesn’t love to laugh? I once read a quote that said, “Laughter is the best medicine.” Being able to laugh with my late husband, Andrew, even during the most difficult seasons of life, helped me get through some painful moments. I remembe… Read more »


Supporting One Another

Hi There! Have you ever had a conversation with someone that made you feel like you weren’t all alone and that what you were feeling was normal? This weekend a friend asked me to reach out to someone who’d also lost a loved one to cancer because he was… Read more »


Living with Clarity

Hi Friend! Happy belated Valentine’s Day! Hope you got to do something special with the ones you love! Ellie and I are celebrating tonight since yesterday was my Day 30 of the Whole30 and mama’s cravin’ some sushi! I have to tell you, I set out on this… Read more »


Happy 6th Birthday Ellie!

Hi There! Today, my baby girl turns 6 and it’s blowing my mind how fast time flies. It’s true what they say, the days are long and the years are short. The first couple years of sleepless nights, combined with the constant crying from her colic tummy,… Read more »


Letting go of Expectations

  Hello! Letting go of the way we think life should be is not easy. My daughter, Ellie, likes to remind me daily, “That’s not fair.” And I often respond with, “Life’s not fair.” I remember the moment when I realized my future would not look the wa… Read more »


TEDx

Hi There! Recently, someone encouraged me to take a risk and apply for a new opportunity. An opportunity that, if I got selected, would make me pee my pants with fear and excitement. Deep down, I was unsure if I had what it takes, but the thought that… Read more »


Beware, Don’t Compare

Hi There! Have you ever let comparison hold you back from realizing your dreams? I sure have and it’s still something I have to constantly keep in check. Today I want to share some valuable tools I use to dissolve comparison before it gets the best of… Read more »


Seen and Heard

Hello! I hope you’re having a great week so far! A while back, I had a particularly heartfelt conversation with one of my dear and long-time friends. Afterward, she shared how she really felt seen and heard by how I had shown up for our talk. She encou… Read more »


Kaizen

Hi there! Hoping you had a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year! Since being on the go these past few months for different speaking engagements, I decided to take a couple of weeks off from writing to be fully present with my family. Grateful I did, beca… Read more »


Saying NO to Say YES

HI Friend! I don’t know about you, but I’m already in complete holiday overload mode. My To-Do list feels endless and it just so happens that when it rains, it pours. The past couple of months have felt like everything is happening all at once, from an… Read more »


The Courage to Make Mistakes

(Ellie with her incredible Kindergarten teacher (Mrs. Dow) after the Christmas performance!) Hi! I hope you’re having a great week! Life has certainly been a whirlwind the past couple of months. I just got back from celebrating my birthday this past we… Read more »


Better, Not Bitter

Hi There! All I can think about today is my late husband, Andrew. Yesterday, he would have turned 34 years old. On Monday night I asked our daughter, Ellie, what she would want to say to her Daddy on his birthday. I posted it yesterday on Facebook, but… Read more »


Gift of Gratitude

Happy (almost) Thanksgiving! In preparation for the big day, I’ve been hitting up spin classes. I’ve been traveling a lot these days for speaking, so it had been awhile since my last spin class. All that to say, about 10 minutes into the most recent cl… Read more »


Leap and the Net Will Appear

I walk through the door into my garage, looking around at what used to be filled with boxes and boxes of books, piled high and consuming half of the entire space. Now it looks almost empty. A wave of disbelief, gratitude, and panic comes over me as I r… Read more »


The Only Way Out Is Through

Hello! It’s been fast and furious these days in the Heard household. I spoke locally to a Mothers of Pre-schooler (MOPS) group last Friday, at a cancer survivors’ lunch for Head for the Cure on Saturday, and I just got back from speaking in Austin, Tex… Read more »


I Put Myself in Time-Out

Hi Friend! Have you ever felt completely overwhelmed thinking about all the things you think you should be doing in your life that you’re not? Keeping the house organized, making more money, being more involved at church, working out, teaching your kid… Read more »


Be Bold and Ask

Hi! Thank you for all the love on Facebook and Instagram last week on what would have been my 9th wedding anniversary. You always make a difficult day brighter with your love and encouragement. On that particular day, I was flying to Las Vegas to join… Read more »


What Do I Say?

I have a confession…I still don’t know what to say to someone who’s experienced loss. Having lost my husband, you would think I’d know what to say, but all I know are the words and actions that most comforted me. During these challenging times, it’s im… Read more »


Best Advice Ever

Hi Friend! Today I’m keepin’ it short and sweet, sharing some of the best advice I’ve received that’s stuck with me over the years. My mom always told me, “90% of what you worry about never happens.” I always pull this one out any time fear is keeping… Read more »


Better, Braver, and Kinder

Hi There! Is there someone in your life that makes you want to be a better, braver, or kinder version of yourself? I have several men and women who’ve done this for me, but there’s one in particular I’d like to highlight today. Thankfully, she’s given… Read more »


Dear Ellie

Hi!! I have to tell you about an incredible experience I had over the weekend, but before I go any further, I need to share the backstory… This summer I received an email from one of the band directors at Cuero High School, Rick Varela. For those of… Read more »


Are You Smarter Than a Kindergartner?

Hi There! To answer the question above, of course you are smarter than a kindergartner. I thought I was, too, but apparently I still have some learning to do! Here’s what happened… After school one day last week, upon getting back home, Ellie proceed… Read more »


The Courage to Change

Hi! Have you ever made a significant change in your life and, even though you were confident in your choice, worried about how others would receive the news and feel about you based on your decision? Recently, after much deliberation, a friend of mine… Read more »


Happy Half Hour Podcast with Jamie Ivey

Happy Wednesday!! Hope you had a great holiday weekend! El and I sure did! Today, I wanted to share my latest podcast episode with the amazing Jamie Ivey! Last year, I was on her Happy Hour podcast (you can listen to last year’s episode here). Today, I… Read more »


Some Thoughts on Friendship (Guest Blogger!)

Hi There! Have you ever had one of those friends who’s there for you when you’re going through something really difficult, when you need a good laugh, or just someone to listen or encourage you when you’re low? I have a handful of those kinds of friend… Read more »


Ellie Goes to Kindergarten

Welp…We survived the first day of Kindergarten. It’s not easy watching your baby grow up and go off to big kid school. Luckily, my usually shy, anxious, and reserved little El popped out of bed Monday morning and said with a giggle,“I’m so excited!” {S… Read more »


Olympic Dreams

Hi There! Last night I was binge-watching the Olympics and catching up on the women’s gymnastics team finals. I couldn’t help but get nostalgic after team USA won the gold. My thoughts took me back to the 1996 Olympics…The Magnificent 7 was the name of… Read more »


Just Do It

Last night, my daughter, Ellie, brought me a beautiful blue, green, and yellow painting with a piece of chalk glued to the center. She’d painted the chalk blue and bedazzled the top of it with a star jewel, making it look like a mini fairy wand. Almost… Read more »


When Conflict Creates Change

How do you respond to conflict? While I was growing up, my family mostly avoided conflict for as long as we could until someone eventually exploded into a full-on emotionally charged, personally pointed exchange of highly heated words. Somewhere along… Read more »


Andrew’s Heaven Birthday

Hello! Ellie and I had such a memorable day yesterday celebrating my late husband and Ellie’s Daddy, Andrew’s, Heaven birthday! The day started with finding flowers on my front door from a dear friend, which reminded me of God’s goodness to bless us wi… Read more »


Uniquely Gifted

Hi There! Have you ever wondered what your calling is? Have you ever invested time into discovering the unique wiring and gifts God gave you so you could positively impact the world? And, biggest question: have you ever forgotten what those traits are… Read more »


Pain vs. Suffering

Last week I received a text from a close friend saying she was thinking about me because she knew July might bring me a lot of intense emotions. It sure does. July 26th will mark three years since my late husband, Andrew, has been gone. Even on a subco… Read more »


Unleash The Power Within

Hi There! Just got back from the Tony Robbins event, Unleash The Power Within (UPW). If you watched the news last week, I know what you might be thinking and the answers are: Yes, I did the firewalk, and NO, I did not burn my feet. Ever since seeing To… Read more »


Activity vs. Productivity

“There is nothing so useless as doing efficiently that which should not be done at all.” – Peter Drucker This quote sums up the thorn in my side as an entrepreneur. I can waste way too much time trying to figure out which activities are most important… Read more »


No One is Coming

Have you ever had a realization or a light-bulb moment that completely shifted your thoughts, feelings, and actions out of being a victim and into a place of empowerment? I recently had one of those moments. Here’s what went down: A few weeks ago I tho… Read more »


What Will You Create?

Hi There! Just got back from a wonderful trip to Disneyland and San Diego! It was one of the first trips Ellie and I have taken with my entire immediate family. I grew up in my own modern family. Both of my parents were married, each had one child and… Read more »


AMAZING Ellie GRACE

Today’s post was inspired by one of my greatest inspirations, my daughter, Ellie. It’s hard to believe she will be starting kindergarten in the fall. My, how time flies. This is her last week of preschool and I can’t help but think about all we’ve been… Read more »


Facing Fear with Faith and Action

I’m writing to you a little out of breath after sprinting from Terminal E to Terminal C in the Atlanta airport where I’m sure I got my 10,000 steps in for the day as I barely made it onto my next flight home. I flew into North Carolina on Monday to spe… Read more »


Thoughts on Self-Publishing & Speaking

One of my absolute favorite parts of being a speaker is getting to connect with women and men after I speak, hear their stories, and help support them with their dreams and goals. A few weeks ago, I was speaking at an event in Lubbock, TX. After I spok… Read more »


Dating After Loss

So I’m gonna go there today. I want to talk about my experience with dating after loss. It’s a vulnerable conversation I’m a little embarrassed to talk about, but my hope is someone can relate, connect, and maybe we will bond over it. If you’ve followe… Read more »


The Balance of Heart and Mind

Have your feelings ever led you astray? I’m a feeler, and I often lean toward making decisions more from my heart than from my mind. While taking your feelings into consideration is important in the decision-making process, it’s only a part of it. I’m… Read more »


Standing Where He Stood

Hello! I’m writing to you from my home away from home, Cuero, TX. I’m really looking forward to speaking in Victoria, TX on Wednesday. For now, though, I’m sitting in my late husband, Andrew’s, favorite recliner with his Texas Tech blanket draped acros… Read more »


Head for the Cure

Hello! I’m pumped to share some exciting news today involving my new partnership with Head for the Cure! Since helping to take care of Andrew from his stage-four cancer diagnosis in the fall of 2012 to his final day on this earth in the summer of 2013,… Read more »


Reach Out

Hi There! A couple of weeks ago when I was at Disney World, I received a Facebook message from one of my late husband, Andrew’s, friends from high school and college. It moved me to tears and after receiving permission from this friend I wanted to shar… Read more »


Fierce Conversations

Ever experienced the feeling of knots in your stomach at the thought of a difficult conversation you knew you had to have with someone you care about? I’m a recovering people-pleaser, so confrontation with the likelihood of disappointing someone makes… Read more »


Faith Over Fear

Hi There! Have you ever felt like you are on running on a hamster wheel? It keeps spinning and spinning and, for a while, it’s really fun and exciting, until finally it stops for a minute. You take a second to breathe and in the silence, your thoughts… Read more »


FEATHERS: FAITH IN FLIGHT

  Hi There! I’m going to keep this post short ‘n’ sweet because I have a special treat for you! Today I’m going to take you on the journey of how God called me to trust Him and how I responded to the call via a podcast I recently had the pleasure… Read more »


The Myth of the Natural

Hello! Today, I want to talk about something that struck me as interesting the first time I heard it. I had just finished a speaking event and a friend of mine, who attended the event, shared on Facebook how she’d received value from my message. Anothe… Read more »


Self-Care

Hi There! 2016 has been such a whirlwind so far. It’s been fast, furious, and very exciting. I’ve been in “go” mode since January 1st, traveling the country to speak and spending time with my family. I feel blessed by the opportunity to connect with pe… Read more »


Living My Life on Purpose

Hi! I am beyond excited to share this post with you! I just got back from New Orleans where I had the privilege of giving my inspirational keynote speech to over one thousand Keller Williams real estate agents and staff (by far my largest audience yet)… Read more »


Ellie Turns 5!

Hi There! Monday was Ellie’s 5th birthday! My parents and I brought a cookie cake to her school to celebrate with her class. I loved watching Ellie interact with her friends. You can see the respect and love they have for her because she is so kind to… Read more »


Your Best Life Later

Hi There! I’m so pumped to share some exciting news with you today! I recently received the first updated copy of my late husband, Andrew’s, very first book, Your Best Life Later! This is one of my favorite books of Andrew’s. It’s a bit sentimental for… Read more »


Speaking UP

Yesterday afternoon I was speaking to a few hundred people at a Keller Williams Cultural Summit and awards event in Orlando, Florida, giving my keynote speech entitled, “Living Your Legacy Today.” I’m often asked if I still get nervous before speaking…. Read more »


Life Book

Hi there! I just had the most amazing experience I’m dying to share with you! This weekend I flew to Arizona with my mom to participate in a conference called Life Book. Going to this event together was her birthday gift to me. I had no expectations of… Read more »


Bigger and Braver

Hi There! I am writing you today from Mission Beach in sunny San Diego. I’m here to speak to and encourage an amazing group of Keller Williams real estate agents! Ellie and my Aunt Betty came with me from Texas and we met my parents, brother, and siste… Read more »


Challenged, Committed, Connected

Happy New Year! I’ve always loved the concept of a fresh start, a clean slate, a new beginning. It fills my heart with so much hope and anticipation for what can be. Every New Year’s Eve I reflect on the past year, on the lessons I’ve learned, the mist… Read more »


Gratitude Changes Everything

“I wish Daddy was here. Making cookies in the easy bake oven would be way more fun with me, you, and Daddy,” Ellie said. “I couldn’t agree more, El-bug,” I replied. Then I wrapped my arms around her and said, “It’s OK to miss Daddy.” We had this conver… Read more »


Forward Momentum

Hi Friend! A couple of weeks ago I found myself in a predicament. A friend of mine, whom I really respect and admire, messaged me to ask if I was still doing a lot of running. She’s always been an incredible athlete. She was four grades ahead of me in… Read more »


Remembering My Worth

Hello! Has someone you loved ever said something to you that caused you to feel like you were not good enough for them or just “less than”? Like they passed a judgment on you and then you felt really discouraged, to the point you forgot where your intr… Read more »


30 Was Fun, Now on to 31!

Hi Friend! Today I turn the Big 31! I know I normally post on Wednesdays, but I wanted to share my birthday with you, so I’m posting today! I want to start by thanking you for following my family’s journey, praying for us, supporting Andrew’s books, A… Read more »


Happy Birthday Andrew

Ellie and I went to church last night. There was this moment in the service when I was holding her, our faces pressed together, side by side, and we each had a hand raised to the sky as we worshiped God while belting out the words to the song, “You Are… Read more »


The Healing Power of Writing

Hello! Happy almost-Thanksgiving! Today, I was inspired to share how writing has been a tool to create more healing in my life. Throughout my 30 years so far, I have had over 20 journals. The earliest one dates back to the 3rd grade and is filled with… Read more »


John Maxwell + The Ellie Project

Hi!! I wanted to share an exciting story that happened in my life and it includes you! A few weeks ago, my parents went to their third Exchange conference put on by the amazing John Maxwell. If you aren’t familiar with John, he is the expert on leaders… Read more »


Ellie’s Legacy

“Because Dad died, God might want me to really love Mama so you’re not alone.” These were the words straight out of my little girl, Ellie’s, mouth a few nights ago. I’m consistently in awe of her massively compassionate heart. It blows me away that at… Read more »


Helping Hand

A few days ago, while driving my daughter, Ellie, to my aunt’s house, I had a conversation with her that deeply affected me. The discussion started over a birthmark on Ellie’s finger, which I told her is the exact birthmark my late-husband and her dadd… Read more »


Failing Forward

I’m not gonna lie. There are some days (like today) I wake up wondering what the heck was I thinking starting my own business? I must be out of my mind. Today I felt completely overwhelmed by the all the details involved in running my business. I feel… Read more »


Looking Back, Stepping Forward

  Yesterday would have been my 8-year wedding anniversary with Andrew (he passed away from cancer on July 26, 2013). I can’t help but think about what our lives would currently look like had he lived, where we would be living, what we would be doi… Read more »


Motivating Positive Transformation

Last week was the first time in over a year I’ve gotten up on stage to speak and share my family’s story. For me, the experience of losing my husband and becoming a single mom has only set in recently, so it’s been a completely different experience sha… Read more »


The Other Book

  So many of you who’ve followed our story for awhile know about Andrew’s books, A Gray Faith and The Ellie Project, but before those books came along there was another book about football, the perils of high school popularity, and choosing God ov… Read more »


Through the Pain

This week I had a conversation with a friend that brought up some thought-provoking questions for me. The premise of the conversation was about going through life trying to avoid pain, and both of us deciding it was time to stop running and start deali… Read more »


What’s Your Money Love Story?

  So I’m finishing up a book called, Money, A Love Story, by Kate Northrup, and I have to say it’s one of the first books about money I’ve thoroughly enjoyed reading. Granted, I haven’t read too many books about money because, to be honest, the to… Read more »


Bouncing Back

Hi ya! This past week was full of unexpected surprises, emotional highs and lows, and a curve ball. Have you ever felt so thrown off course by an event, person, or experience that it made you re-evaluate your direction and focus? Did you wrestle with f… Read more »


Happy Hour Podcast

  Hi There! Hope you had a great Labor Day weekend!! Mine was cray cray. Ellie got an ear infection, I broke out in poison ivy all over legs and arms, which itched like the dickens, and then I lost my debit card, which I found today in the trash (… Read more »


Less Stuff, More Depth

Hello!! I read an article in Health magazine last week that interviewed the actress, Sophia Bush, and something she said really stayed with me. She said her theme for the year is, “narrow and deep,” AKA– less stuff, more depth, which really resonated w… Read more »


Heavy Heart

Hiya!! I’m hoping you are all having a great week! I have something that has been heavy on my heart for quite some time now that I want to share with you. I’ve been experiencing a lot of guilt around this issue and I’m hoping by talking about it today,… Read more »


Righting My Wrong

Have you ever made an emotional financial decision you knew wasn’t wise for you or for your family, but instead of having the power to say “no” you said “yes” and felt awful about it (I’m talking sick-to-your-stomach, can’t sleep kind of feeling)? I re… Read more »


Powerful Life Lessons

HI! Before we dive in, I have to tell you the cutest story that happened to me this morning. I was working in my office and my sweet Ellie Grace woke up, crawled into my lap, and proceeded to tell me about how she was going to kiss a boy. Yes, she is o… Read more »


The Power of being Present

Hi There! Hope you are having a great week. Has this summer not flown by? This morning I went on a walk with Ellie. I walked our dog, Keller, while Ellie pushed her stuffed animals in a baby stroller. Halfway through the walk, El asked if we could take… Read more »


HELP, please!

Hi Friend! Thank you so much for your support with The Ellie Project. I was blown away by the response on Sunday to The Ellie Project Legacy Book Sale. Ellie and I felt so loved and encouraged reading your heartfelt messages on Facebook. I wish you cou… Read more »


Do You Feel Free?

Hi There!! What would you say is the number one thing that holds you back from taking hold of the life you want?! For me, it was ultimately what others might think about me: Would I fulfill their expectations, would they judge me harshly, would I be mi… Read more »


What the Heck Do You Do?! HUGE ANNOUNCEMENT

HAVE YOU ever read a book that changed your life?! I’m sure you have. My own moment came eight years ago.  I read Twenty Something Twenty Everything by Christine Hassler and I was so fascinated by it I had to know more. Turns out the author was a life… Read more »


The Evolution of The Ellie Project

Hi Friend! You may already know The Ellie Project was created during my late husband, Andrew’s, bonding time with our daughter, Ellie, while he was laying in his hospital bed in our home. He really wanted to play with Ellie, but couldn’t wrestle with h… Read more »


Mommy Guilt

Hiya! Shout out to all the mamas out there! This post is for you, and by that I mean for me, too, because when I write, I’m processing through my thoughts and emotions on various life situations. The icing on the cake is hopefully by sharing some of my… Read more »


Conversations With My 4-year-old

Hi Friend! Hope you are having a great week! My 4-year-old daughter, Ellie, and I were driving back to Dallas last week and we had a very impactful conversation that I felt compelled to share with you. For those just joining our journey, almost two yea… Read more »


The Day I Stopped Taking Antidepressants (Last Week)

Hi Friends! It’s a rainy day in Austin, Texas and I’m crashing at my brother and sister-in-law’s place for the week while Ellie is spending time with her grandparents in South Texas. I was feeling the need to get the heck out of dodge and go somewhere… Read more »


When in Doubt, Ask for HELP

Hi Friend! Hope you are having a wonderful week! Wanted to let you know that every Wednesday morning I will be writing a new blog post, so if you already subscribe to my blog, you will be getting an inspirational post in your inbox at that time every w… Read more »


Finding Your Unique Voice

Hi! Hope you are having a great week! Will you please do me a solid and take a second to celebrate with me!? I just want to soak up the moment of being able to hold The Ellie Project in my hands! I’m often guilty of doing, doing, doing, and not stoppin… Read more »


Leap of Faith

Hi There!! Hope you had a wonderful memorial day! I spent some much-needed family time with my daughter and my in-laws at their lake house! This past month has been such a whirlwind from San Diego, to Los Angeles, to Atlanta, to New York that I really… Read more »


Home Sweet Online Home

Hi!! The day has finally come! I’ve been fantasizing about my new online dream home for the past year and a half. A couple of weeks ago, one of my new friends told me when she saw the design of my blog, she thought I was an 85-year-old woman. I told he… Read more »


Dancing with Ellen

My Aunt Betty, Me and my sweet mom at The Ellen Show Hi! Happy Friday! Ok, are you ready to get the juicy deets about The Ellen Show!? First off, thank you so much for all of your encouragement and support! It was a shot in the dark that anything would… Read more »


Moving Forward After Loss

Me and El looking through The Ellie Project in 2013 Hi Y’all! First off, I just want to thank you all so much for your support of The Ellie Project! If you bought a book through www.ellieproject.com by May 1st you will get a signed copy by me and El! I… Read more »


Enjoying Life

(ran into my dear friends (mother daughter duo) Lauren and Chandler Peck!) Hi There! I’ve missed you! The past couple of weeks have been such a whirlwind! From The Ellen Show to vacation time with my family in San Diego to getting invited to the Academ… Read more »


Being Heard

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” – Anais Nin  Hi Ya! Have you ever been afraid to fully be yourself and show the world who you really are? I sure have. I can remember two years… Read more »


Begin with the End

Hi There! A couple of weeks ago, I was listening to an impactful book called, The One Thing, by Gary Keller. In the book, Keller talks about polling people who were at the end of their lives and asking them what a life worth living meant to them. Pract… Read more »


Little Interruptions

Hi There! Me meditating in my fave Andrew sweatshirt with my new favorite “interruption”I’m curious. Have you ever made a decision to stick to a plan and then a few days into implementing your action steps for the plan, something interrupts and distrac… Read more »


Loving Those Who’ve Lost

Hi There! (Some of my besties, loving on me at Andrew’s evening memorial service 2013)I just got back from an incredible weekend in Cuero, TX. I can remember just a short year ago driving into Cuero and feeling overwhelmed by the loss of my husband, An… Read more »


Then There Were Three

(If you can’t tell she’s pretty stinkin happy) (Ellie loves her new cuddle buddy) Hello There! We’ve had some thrilling things going on in the Heard household over the last week. First off, you can end the petition for Ellie to get a dog, because surpr… Read more »


I Forgive Me

 (Me and my lil bro in San Diego 2014) Hi Friends! Have you ever gotten stuck replaying poor choices you’ve made over and over in your head? You can’t seem to shake the images or your own interpretations of what happened. The things you’re telling your… Read more »


I Still Get Jealous

Hi There! I have a confession: I still get jealous. Especially lately, the green monster of jealousy has been rearing its ugly head. First, let me back this train up before I dive in. Seven years ago I was the pioneer for my friends in regards to marri… Read more »


A Lesson Loss Gifted Me: Gratitude

Hi There! Today, I want to reflect on one of the greatest lessons I’ve learned from losing my young husband, Andrew. My hope is that you will be inspired by my experiences and what I’ve taken away from them, so that you can live a life filled with even… Read more »


One Step At A Time

Hi Friends! I look at this daily to keep me anchored and motivated towards my big WHYHave you ever felt so overwhelmed with all the projects you wanted to complete that you didn’t know where or how to get started? I asked my friend this question the ot… Read more »


Finding Your Best Mentor

Hi There,   Me with Christine Hassler at her Dallas book tour where I introduced her!I’m back from paradise! Read lots of books, spent time with family, and enjoyed some rest and relaxation. I hope you all enjoyed the holidays, too, and were able… Read more »


Set For Success

Hi There! Hope you are enjoying this holiday season with your loved ones! I’m getting pretty excited about the New Year (as in I can hardly sleep because I have so many ideas running through my head) and was thinking you might be too! I have a couple o… Read more »


I Want A Daddy

Hi Friends! I hope you all are doing well and getting excited about the fast approaching holiday season. Although I do look forward to the holidays, there’s always a layer of sadness that comes with them. Mostly because a big part of the holiday season… Read more »


Check it off

Hi Friends, I hope you are all having a great start to your week! This week is a little strange for me because my little buggy bear (aka my daughter Ellie Grace) is visiting my in-laws (Andrew’s parents) for the entire week. It’s been eerily silent in… Read more »


Thirty, Flirty, and Thriving

(Me and 5 of my besties at my surprise 30th b-day party) One of my favorite movies of all time is 13 Going on 30. In the movie, a young thirteen–year-old girl, Jenna, hates being a teenager and makes a wish in her closet to turn her ideal age, 30! As s… Read more »


Happy 32 Andy Roo

(one of our 2007 engagement photos by Joseph Mark Photography) Today would have been Andy’s 32nd birthday! Ellie and I plan to celebrate at Chuck E. Cheese, sending dad a present (Ellie’s artwork) via a balloon and a birthday cupcake where El plans to… Read more »


Food to my Soul

(That’s me hugging the incredible photographer Taylor Lord (who took our family photos) at the Fotolanthropy event.) Hi There! It’s been a little while since my last post, but there is a lot to catch you up on.  First off, this past Tuesday I was invit… Read more »


What Might Have Been

Today would have been seven years that Andrew and I would have been married. Sometimes I like to think about what our relationship would have looked like had he survived cancer for a second time. I truly believe those would have begun the best years of… Read more »


Sweet Moments

Last night I had the sweetest moment with Ellie. I was telling her a story as she lay in her bed. After the story, I hugged and kissed her goodnight. As I was getting up to leave she said, “Mom, can I pretend Daddy is here with me?” My heart just broke… Read more »


Best Investments I’ve Ever Made

I’ve admitted to you in recent posts that right out of college I had no concept of money. No concept of how to save it, spend it, make it, or even the value of it. This makes for a rough start to marriage. Luckily for me, my husband had a better grasp… Read more »