Boundaries = Peace of Mind

Hi There!

I finally hit a breaking point.

Rewind…

Six months ago I took a new job at Keller Williams. Ever since, it’s been a learning curve as to how to juggle the new position with speaking, writing, managing my home and my businesses, and taking care of my 7-year-old daughter, Ellie.

Gradually, and then suddenly, I looked up one day to find my house was a wreck, I couldn’t remember the last time I’d cooked because I was constantly ordering from Doordash (which I honestly couldn’t really afford to do), I could barely squeeze into my jeans, and my voicemail box was constantly full because I wasn’t maintaining my messages.

My emails, texts, and paper mailbox were flooded with messages to which I hadn’t made time to respond. On top of all of that, I was having behavior challenges with my daughter and felt like she didn’t respect me.

It felt like, all of a sudden, the crap hit the fan and I was overwhelmed by the chaos of my own making.

They say when the student is ready the teacher will appear. So out of desperation I called my friend from college who shoots straight with me and calls me out when necessary and always speaks the truth with love.

I swallowed my pride and fear of judgment and told her how I was in need of help. I told her how I’d just let myself go and was now so overwhelmed by my disorganization and bad habits that I didn’t know how to get back to a place of peace.

She told me she’d be at my house by the end of the week.

When she arrived her face said it all. She told me, “When I look at your home, I can see why it’s not working for you. I can also tell this is a child-centric home. Your kid is in control.”

Ouch. It stung, but she was right. In that moment I finally connected the dots—so much of my chaos was created from the lack of boundaries I had for myself and for my child. I was making decisions from a place of not wanting to deal with the tantrums, instead of what is ultimately best for my daughter.

I thought my friend was coming to help me get my home back in order and what happened was she helped me get my life back in order, starting with my parenting.

For the next six hours we worked non-stop, going from room to room to give away, throw away, and create a space in each room that made sense for my family and for our new way of living.

I loved that she helped me put together a list of new boundaries for our home. She took the time to help me think through how to explain the new changes to Ellie. All I can say is it’s been a huge positive shift in our lives and brings us more freedom, space, and peace of mind.

Next week I’ll share how we’re adjusting to the changes and what some of those boundaries are.

What boundaries are you wanting to create in your life? How will your life be different, better when you stick to your new boundaries? Would love to hear from you!

As always, thank you so much for spending time with me today! Love and Blessings.