A New Start

Happy New Year! I hope you enjoyed the holidays.


Coming to the start of a new decade got me thinking about all that’s happened in my life. Over the past ten years, I became newly married, started a career in real estate, had a baby, lost my husband to cancer, co-authored a book, and created a coaching and speaking business that fills my soul.


Through the highs and the lows, I’m determined not to allow tragedy to define me, but instead to enlighten me to what’s essential and most valuable in life. There are days, weeks, months, and even years when grief has been all-consuming, and depression and anxiety have taken over, and I have to fight like heck to rise above it and keep going.


During those times, I doubt myself in every possible way and wonder if I’m capable of overcoming the pain and finding my way.


During those difficult times, I’ve wanted to hide, and I’ve pulled back in sharing those moments because I’ve felt embarrassed for struggling.


I’ve succumbed to this false pressure that if I don’t have it all figured out and if I make mistakes and failures I will be a disappointment. When my mind spirals down this dark tunnel of fear, I remember all I’ve already overcome and with God, all things are possible.


I remind myself we are all a work in progress and it’s not falling that matters; it’s getting back up every single time. It’s what we make of it and ourselves through it.


Then I permit myself to be human and feel all the emotions a human feels, to have good days and bad days, and then remember to get back up and get back out there.


We may have to start over many times in our lives, and that’s OK.


When that happens for me, I ask God for the humility to be a beginner and start anew. To not worry about what anyone else thinks, but to stay on my path and trust God’s plan every step of the way, even when it doesn’t look the way I thought it should.


So in this new decade, I vow to embrace my story and embrace my mistakes. I will take more risks, trust my gut, believe I am capable, follow my curiosity, watch my finances with a more critical eye, be more decisive knowing it’s OK to change my mind, try new things, and be brave and honest enough to share the highs and the lows. You can hold me to it 🙂


What do you want to bring into this next decade? Can’t wait to hear it!


Thank you for spending time with me today and for continuing to follow my family’s journey. So grateful for YOU and for your time. Happy 2020! Love and Blessings.

2 Responses to “A New Start”

  1. Robert Budd

    You are destined for great blessings in life. Take risks, dare to challenge the status quo. My dad once told me that he never regretted the things he did in life, he regretted the things he didn’t do. Go do all God has ordained you to do.

    • Bailey Heard

      So inspiring Robert! Thank you so much for sharing. You are such a source of encouragement in my life and I’m so thankful!! Appreciate you pouring your kindness into my life! Hugs to you and Val.